Fathers who pay child support and are actively involved in their kid‘s lives (single fathers also) [reparation: # 53]
society owe(s) fathers
I am a woman, a mother even. And I am not taking anything away from single mothers at all...but come on. All we hear about is dead beat dads who don‘t pay their child support, don‘t visit their kids, or dent paternity outright. Maury Povich has led this country to believe most men are the mindless idiots he puts on his show. There are millions of fathers out there who give more of their check than they can probably afford, work all week at a job they may hate, and still make time to go see their kid sing out of tune at a school play. There‘s also numerous single fathers out there doing there thing as well. Yet we never see a talk show in their honor, we never see a news bulletin showing the top 10 on time child support payers. Moms are not the only ones out here handling their business people!!!!!
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anonymous: you are a nice woman and you are also smart. sadly, people are generally only interested in the bad things that people do. it makes better press. maury povich probably beats his kids anyway.
Jaime: lol @that. Thank you though. It just angers me to see all these shows negatively portraying fathers. I don‘t deny that there is a problem in this country at all with deadbeat dads. But at the same time the ones who do what they are suppose to don‘t get credit for it. And even worse than that...God forbid he lose his job or fall behind slightly due to the way life just happens...a man is instantly penalized because of all the other deadbeats out there. My fiance pays support for a child that he has never held and is 4 years old. The mother makes it impossible for him to see his son yet he pays sometimes to the point of depriving our child that we raise together of luxuries. Don‘t get me wrong, my son has the necessities but sometimes it‘d be nice to do a little extra but God forbid he miss a payment or he‘d lose his license or worse go to jail.
anonymous: My baby‘s father refuses to talk to me or see his baby at all. I tried and tried to get him to 1. take the dna test as he denied her to begin with. 2. Come see his baby girl. He has refused any contact. I had to get a lawyer to force a dna test, (which of course came back he fathered her) Now he still refuses to talk to us, or see her. He told me "go thru court for everything" That is what is left. I would gladly give him credit as a good father if he was one. I think those types are considered "dead beat dads." The ones that have every opportunity in the world to see their children and refuse for whatever reasons they have. This man had "visitation days" with his cat..(from a previous wife) I never imagined it would ever be this way EVER.
Jaime: unfortunately as I said there are deadbeats out there and please dont take anything I wrote as offensive toward your situation. I am sorry that your childs father like so many others doesn‘t realize what a gift he has in his child. It is truly a shame and I wish it were different. My posting was aimed at the fact that there are good ones out there too and not meant to lessen the fact that there are bad ones all over too. You deserve reparations as well as any single parent out there...I raised my son for 9 months alone and I give so much credit to all of you who do it all the time. Its not easy being mommy and daddy and when the day comes that answers are needed you are the one left behind and often don‘t have the right replies. Keep your head up and in the end your baby girl will know you loved her enough to make everything ok for her despite his ignorance.
a Dad: more like media owes fathers, but yes I agree.
I think at the social level, the Dad‘s that go the distance, and particularly the one‘s that are the primary care provider are held in higher regard than single Moms... since the misconception can be that "that‘s what moms do..." So while the media should be stoned for their broad stroke painting of divorced fathers, all you can really blame society for is for tuning in to that pablam.
anonymous: I want to agree with you...there are many wonderfulk men out there....and as a single mom I work three jobs to make sure my kids will be ok....I just think it is wrong that their father has nothing to do with them....and that because he is a lawyer he doesnt have to pay much because he new all the judges and lawyers......God bless the good men who pay.....usually they are poor....and couldnt afford a lawyer.....the court system is not about what is right,,,,,,it is about who you are
Jen: I only WISH my husband‘s ex would allow my husband to be more than a check! Oh how I wish you were his ex. She is now a lesbian who just wants him out of their daughters life. She outright lied in court to deny him more then bare minimum visitation, and this was after she refused him contact with their daughter for 9 months by moving and refusing to tell him where she moved! We couldn‘t afford a lawyer at the time, so there was nothing we could do except plead and beg until it was too late and the court bought her BS hook line and sinker. With all the men out there who don‘t care about their kids, why can‘t she just see that she is lucky to have an ex who DESPERATELY WANTS to be more than an every other weekend dad and is more than willing to pay for ANYTHING their daughter needs. Even private school. Ugh what is wrong with people??? Sorry for the rant...
William Randee: Hey, all ya‘ll watch yo mouth! Don‘t be talkin‘ about no deadbeat dads. Maybe if you wasn‘t so stupid I‘da put up with your ass a bit more. Them dudes not payin‘ are the smart ones while you stuck with your babies. Ha, ha. Dummies.
anonymous: I am a mother of two little children and I am tired to struggle every day because child support.My husband pay so much in child support for a child he never agree to have in the first place.there are women out there getting pregnant by man just because they want the men to be stuck with them.I would like to see child support from the other side,for those father, to have some fearness.How ironic life is,my husband pay child support to somebody else and child support services told me to ask for goverment help to support my childrn.
anonymous: people seem to think that the mother is the inasent one but lets get real here in a lot of cases the woman left the man then drges his name though the mud and says hes a dead beat dad when the real storie is she just wants money. i have seen so many cases where the father is a good man but because the woman says has not everyone looks down on him . but if you think about it the man is the one out there busting his but to not only suport his x but him self and new fam if he has one. they need to hear both sides befor making a judgement and tell some of those so call inosent wemen to get of the buts and get a job and stop wasting every ones time and money . and this is coming from a women if you wonderd
anonymous: Yes, thaTs the truth. Fathers need a say so tooo.. My husband is a good man and loves his children to death! He would do anything to see them every day. But his ex has to be a witch when he is a little behind because hes having a hard few months.. He is trying his best to give as much money as he can.